Advice

I don't think I am great at giving advice. Sometimes I sit and listen and then don't know what to say. I find myself sitting next to or on the phone with a person in tears silent because I don't know what to say next. This one time, however, I think I gave good advice and it was because I cared about the person and I could relate. So I am going to tell you a story about me and then I will get back to the point. So sit back and relax while I tell you my story.

Every teenager experiences the dating world in one way or another, right? Well so did I while I was in high school. I dated a guy for over a year and, like any other young girl, I think that it can't get better. I am surely going to marry this person, that's it, I've decided. I remember when I visited Ohio Northern for the first time and this love doctor (I don't remember what he really was) talked to us about high school relationships and the extremely low percentage that they ever work out. As a girl in the audience, I was for sure that would never be me. In fact, I think I even rolled my eyes once. :) You all know where this is going. We broke up! It took about 2 months into the year to realize that we were both taking different paths and it needed to be over. After it was over I realized there were so many things about this person that weren't right for me. But there were things that I saw that I would take with me. It was like a note to self: remember this quality because I want my soul mate to have it! Again, my sophomore year in college I met someone else that I dated for about a year. This person took my mind completely off of the last guy and again, you guessed it, I thought there was no one else better than this guy. That's it, I've decided. HA. When it was finally over (and my family cheered-not literally) I began to think that everyone else has a soul mate but not me. But again, note to self: good qualities I need to remember. I thought I was not cut out for this love business. Everyone says that when you meet someone that you are meant to spend the rest of your life with, you will know. I was convinced that that was a great idea that sounded fairy tale like but it wasn't for me, I lost hope. After a few silly little "dating"  adventures that didn't work and didn't matter my senior year of college snuck up on me. Now, let me set you up with a scenario. I was going out with friends, single, cared only about getting my degree and having some fun in the meantime. I mean there is nothing like college. Then, it hit me. When I least expected it, wasn't looking for a relationship, and could care less if I had a boyfriend there he was. Four months later, I found myself spending so much time with this guy that I hadn't known that long. He had every note to self quality that I needed. The best part was that it came when I was least expecting it and that is how it has to happen. I am going to save you the lovey dovey details because that is not my point. But I now realize that it is possible. I am cut out for this. I believe, with all my heart, that everyone has a soul mate (some may not agree but that's OK). He is mine. And it came when I had completely let my guard down and wasn't looking for anything of the sort.

So, now that you know my story, back to my good advice that I gave this very important person in my life. She had had a rough break up and was having a hard time getting over it. I went through some of the same struggles with one of my boyfriends that she was going through with hers. While she was crying to me on the phone and I sat there not speaking, it came to me. I told her that she will know what things are right. It will hit her. I never thought I was going to find that perfect person for me and I did, when I least expected it. I told her that she has learned from everyone else what you want in that person. Although it didn't seem like it worked at the time, it did. I am glad that I was able to give that advice and it helped because I could relate. It meant a lot to me that I could help someone else out like that.

Lastly, I have a quote that is appropriate for this post. (Of course) It's one that I love!
"Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked with anyone else."

AMEN!